
A basic rule of post-modern society requires that for any representative of the fair sex is respected , a " best friend " is a must. Usually, the bearer of this honorable title changes over time and can not speak the same eternal friend . In general, a relationship of this type arise quiet punctuated the many rumors and wild escapades shopping. But no matter how mature it is, women have a little problem : not necessarily have to feel a little superior to her best friend . Not entirely, of course , not the front, but deaf spirit of competition is always felt in various forms. Usually a lasting friendship is to reach a balance of forces. For example, you are weaker - it's true, but she has a job more interesting and better paid . But when Mr. Perfect comes into play , balance breaks - one of you managed to win the " accessory " supreme value than any bag firm which automatically becomes the reason of more or less natural jealousies female. Of course, there are friends who will have absolutely no problem with your new love, but do not forget those for whom your boyfriend is either a goal to conquer or hateful enemy .
At first , he says that there is nothing unique about the man that you are in love. " I do not understand what he's special, but if you like ... " she remarks condescending and you sigh with relief - " well that does not seem attractive, because who knows what would go through your head ." Well, it is highly plausible that exactly what to think . After all , you shared tastes just are friends , right? Be very careful , her aura upper single girl can undergo a substantial modification before smallest sign that your new boyfriend and it seems interesting . How can you recognize a potential threat ? The kind who flaunt her feelings towards you and how important your friendship , but is tormented by personal frustrations and insecurities . Naturally, the sixth sense would be to do your figures right now , and if an invitation to coffee over the weekend ( three ... ) leave with smiles overly honey and a parade of deep cleavages by confused face your lover , take appropriate measures. Talk to him ( with her would be pointless , would irreparably injure and would deny to the hilt ) and suggest them to show an intransigent attitude , ironic . However , this kind of best- friend does not even have a place in your life , and if they persist in the attitude of the eternal " temptation" , give to friends until you wake up one story with an unexpected ending .
"It's a mystery how did you feel drawn to him precisely ," says your friend about that which he sees as the embodiment of absolute evil for you. Whatever he does , he dissects every gesture and every word to convince you of his evil intentions. The reasons ? It may be a genuine dislike , but most times it's pure envy or ... stupid. Privately , I want the good and even he thinks you do not fit . Of course your boyfriend is not interested in your drama if at all - even if you do not tell them it's ridiculous . If you wanna keep both relationships and hope for better times , the only possibility is to make peace with the idea that they should be seen more often than once per year on your birthday. And do not talk to him about it or vice versa. The bad news is that this type of friend you can not under any circumstances support if you have problems of torque. The " I told you ... " I will always follow .
Cruel , but true. Life can get you where you see how your boyfriend is " blown " very best friend ! You have neither the first nor the last to experience the bitter taste of betrayal , but watch for signs and act with caution. Can confirm your suspicions or speculations can be born from the love you carry for that " special someone " .
Typically, attitudes , gestures and hidden messages that you send us blow our true thoughts or intentions . Be sure that this principle applies to your best friend ! Intuition tells you that try to steal your boyfriend ? Carefully consider the typical signs and find her true face , before he invest time and energy in a toxic friendship .
1 . You around in front of
The first obvious trend your friend in an attempt to conquer your lover is you do in the face of negative publicity . We do our best to highlight your flaws , always relative to its quality . I will put you in a bad light telling intimate and embarrassing things about you , especially when you're not present .
Ask your partner about the things your girlfriend says them about you , and if they are mostly unkind (even in the form of jokes ) , put a big question mark on her plans !
2. Try to approach him at any cost
When you like a guy, you want to always be around him , is not it ? Notice the extent that try to sit as close to him to capture his attention and make him laugh. Also, see if you often touch palm on the shoulder or back , as gesture betrays the body language , physical attraction for the " comforted " by accident.
He offers to accompany him somewhere , just when you can not come? Here's a typical behavior of a woman who wants to conquer your lover !
3. I often suggest that you do not fit
Initially , it may seem that you are concerned for your fulfillment in love, but when they insist negative descriptions against him (although you does not it seem justified ) clearly sabotaging your relationship . As much as you would want good, can not you ever require someone to love !
4. Try to draw all the attention on her
When you are all three strikes you her provocative attire and how strongly the concerns you lover ? Speak up or " cat " , as if he really want to be in the spotlight ? It 's her way of proving that a game is better than you!
5 . Become competitive in the face of
Whether you play bowling , billiards, Monopoly , either discuss a topic of general culture , it becomes very competitive with you and it seems that it takes very seriously the competition ? Guess who " showing off " in front of your boyfriend to steal your place of his arms !
6. Contact him absurd reasons
Always finds excuses to contact the internet or on the phone, under various pretexts absurd to ask information ( you can find it and net) or borrow something from him . Undoubtedly , it sees it as just a friend !
7. He befriends his close
If ingratiate family , colleagues, and his cronies , gaining more ground in the fight for the win , so do not look relaxed habit of your friend . Even if you have mutual friends does not mean that it is normal to " suffocate " the mother , sister or brother, your lover .
When we love , we all enjoy a dose of possessiveness , lower or higher , depending on personality. As you less possessive But you can not remain impassive when one of your friends betray you and best signs that your boyfriend is interested , regularly flirting with him wherever he was , even when you are herein. Maybe they think that you do not see nothing of it. When you love instincts are strong and rightfully feel when your love is threatened and must stand up immediately .
Unfortunately, a lot of women find men more attractive to unavailable . Wearing a ring ? Comes with his girlfriend everywhere? Ah , I could be myself in her place ! Show all photos of her ? Oh you loved the job , I want him ! And I could go on forever giving all sorts of reasons. What we do but when the woman flirting with him and try and steal it 's really a good friend of yours ? You can rest easy thinking that if you go to the bathroom only to leave them alone five minutes ? Here are some tips to tackle .
1. Talk to her and explain what 's bothering you : If you see her flirting with him and trying to seduce him , the first thing you can do is to tell him directly that this bothers you . If you are in public , take her by the hand into a private place and try to talk to her as man to man . Explain ( if she knows ) that you need respect from them , since you're such a good friend . And respect is not a fad but a necessity in a normal friendly relationship .
2. Do not accept excuses like " it's just a flirt " I speak but she finds the kinds of excuses to try to appease you . Unless that friend that just flirts with everyone , including the elderly of 95 years at the bar , do not believe . Never flirting is not just a flirt and all that we know well .
3. And you flirting with the one you love her, make her realize this the way you feel and you : If nothing else, can he give such a life lesson . You see flirting with waiter in pizza ? And you flirting with him. Certainly will not mind. But while you understand and how it makes you feel when you are trying to seduce her boyfriend.
4 . Do not Let it around your lover : You already talked to her. He seemed to understand but no sign would have changed his attitude . What are you left to do ? Spend increasingly less time with her and when you do, you go alone, without boyfriend . Give them as less likely to see it and to test him power of seduction. At some point you will ask which is why its social exclusion and you have the opportunity to discuss the issue again. Who knows, maybe in the last moment she understands .
5. If all your attempts are without tracking, ending the friendship: If her behavior does not change and continues to ignore your feelings and end the friendship with her. Not a true friend and do not need such sneakiest people around you.
I hope these tips help you keep your beloved close, or who knows ........................... to stealing of others . CARPE DIEM !
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