SEVERAL TYPES OF LOVE

Some confuse love with desire, romance, passion or sex, many do not know the different ways people can love. There are three basic ways in which people behave in a relationship and are usually labeled as love.

"I love you if ..."

Conditional love is given or received only if certain conditions are met. The only way to get this kind of love is to acquire a certain behavior by fulfilling certain requirements. Some parents love their children if they are good, if you get good grades if you behave or dress in a certain way. In couples, love can be lost if one partner is or is not doing what the other expects. Conditional love is selfish, it is a cheap bargain in exchange for something you want. Many young women have experienced just love saying "I love you only if you give me what they want sexually," or "I love you only if you have sex with me, just this once." Another subtle pressure misconception is that all sex couples. The message is: "Since all do, love me if you do." What these young women do not realize is that what they gain from a boy for his sexual satisfaction is not just a cheap imitation of true love and compromising. Sex will never fulfill the need for love and not worth the price of compromise. Conditional Love lasts as long as certain conditions are met. Many marriages are divisive because they are built on conditional love. When one or both partners are not up to the desired standards, "love" turns into disappointment and resentment.

Conditional love is not real love. If you are involved in a relationship and feel pressured to behave in a certain way to win the love they want, the relationship is not based on true love.

"I love you because ..."

The second kind of love is love because if love closes relative. A person loves another person because that is

something is something, or do something. Someone may say; "I love you because you're so beautiful," "I love you because you take care of me," or I love you because you make me laugh. " Love it sounds good. Almost everyone feels good to be loved for who he is or what he does. It is certainly preferable to love whether to be gained steadily and is demanding. To be loved because it looks good, we have a sense of humor, are beautiful and so requires less effort and fewer conditions than bargain to be loved.

Love is not true love. You can be attracted to someone because of personality, position, intelligence, abilities or skills. But if your love is not based on anything more than appearances, will not last.

"I love you, period."

The third kind of love is unconditional. This kind of love says: "I love you despite what you may be in your soul. I love you no matter what you would change. You can not do anything to quench love. I love you. Point! "

Love is not a blind spot. Maybe failures should know more about the person, about its defects and the mistakes. However, a fully accepts without asking anything in return. You can not win this kind of love and you can not lose. Love, love is the different point if by not putting conditions. It is different and love because that is generated by the special qualities of the person. Desire, romance, passion, sex and love that are characterized in particular by the fact that they want to get something from the other person.

What does true love in the relationship between a boy and a girl? It has the same basic elements as the love expressed in any relationship except that the elements of time devoted affection and may be higher in this special relationship. Here are some examples.

True love seeks to meet the need for comfort, support, and encouragement. Everyone needs comfort,

support and encouragement, especially when passing through inevitable periods of pain and discouragement in life. Comfort does not mean only words of encouragement through the counsel another person to stand strong position to remain firm in the face of hardships, or to assemble. Encouragement is not an attempt to explain what happens misfortune. Encouraging not mean a lot of positive words about the fact that God is in control and everything is okay. All these things can be good and useful, but do not meet the primary need of comfort. People receive comfort when we feel pain and sorrow with them, so they know they do not suffer alone.

True love can satisfy the need of support. Call it support someone when that person tried to ease the burden in a practical and useful. Express love for a close friend whenever you serve in a practical and useful. Everyone needs encouragement in life and true love looking for ways to meet this need. We encourage others whenever we do or say something thoughtful raised morale.

True love does not take advantage of the other person. Use, in a relationship of "love" of a person to satisfy your own needs emotional, physical or sexual, is a violation of the rules of love to protect and care for. Take advantage of someone for your own pleasure does not contribute to happiness, health and spiritual growth of the other person.

True love will not compel a person to engage in a sexual relationship. Nowadays, there is a strong constraint among students to become sexually active, even in casual relationships. Movies, music, and media treats premarital sex as normal and expected to take place. But practicing sex outside of God's plan for intimacy in marriage can leave deep wounds mental, emotional and spiritual, that will last for years. True love also protects a person from guilt and pain and provides a safe and beneficial relationship, excluding sexual relations before marriage.

 True love will not impose a friendship "exclusive". Some people become very possessive in the attention and time of their girlfriends or friends. Instead of protecting the person and take care, this approach restricts and stifles them happiness, health, and spiritual growth. True love encourages healthy interaction with others.

True love will do nothing to affect happiness, health and spiritual growth of another person. So how do you know when you find true love? You know that love is true when doing the happiness, health and spiritual growth of your friend an issue as important to you as if it were your own person. This is to protect and care gates of someone you love.

Be open and honest with each other.

Accept your total each other, with mistakes and failures of each.

If you are the "first attempt" ask parents for blessing your relationship.

Resolve disagreements quickly and love and respect.

Emphasize friendship in your relationship.

Maybe you do not have more certainty about the future of your relationship with your girlfriend or boyfriend. But the prospect that be good and positive relationship is directly proportional to the extent that you focus on the true love that protects and cares for each other.

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