MAGIC ROMANCE AND DREAMS: WHY DO WE FALLING IN LOVE ?

Soften your knees, not your longer wipe the smile off your face, you thought kept flying at him or her, safe symptoms that you fell in love. But what exactly happens in our body when the heart leaps with love? And is it possible to be in love forever?

The chemistry of falling in love

By their own statements, recent lovers think of the beloved 90% of the time or more. What scientists tell us, the 100 billion neurons of the brain are responsible for increased heart rate and emptiness in the stomach. The passion is greater, the greater the activity of certain brain centers that direct feeling of excitement and voluptuousness. Those brain areas that cause the secretion of neurotransmitters dopamine, norepinephrine and phenylethylamine, which make lovers have their hands wet and they put a lump in my throat. Blood pressure and pulse rate increases, breathing becomes more rapid, occurring sweat, excitement and euphoria. There are side effects, somewhat risky, of this "drunkenness" hormonal hyperactivity, decreased appetite, insomnia. This explains Valentine's dependence partner. When the object of their passion is not near them, entering a kind of withdrawal similar to drug addicts.

Fall in love's sickness?

Somewhat yes, but this can not be a reason to give up love. "Love is pure obsession, this longing, this madness is the very core of it. No hard we can control and put an end to them," experts say. The nature of the link between love is so tight that they miss each other as soon as they walked out the door. Science and stuck his nose here. Experts have measured the percentage of serotonin in the blood of lovers. It is a

hormone that provides mental stability. When the level drops, it is wasting and mood. The blood of lovers, when one of them is missing, serotonin barely reaches 60% of normal 10 milligrams - a similar situation to the psychotic, suffering from various fixations. The consequence of serotonin deficit: in the absence of a loved installs lack of energy and passivity, fear and depression. The conclusion? Equivalent to a state of infatuation "microparanoia" ...

We can learn to fall in love?

Most lovers say that they happened, simply to fall in love. Although they will not heed the science persevere in its research. Helen Fisher, a famous American anthropologist, says, for example, that drug enthusiasts easier to open this sense, have greater availability. But the flame of passion can be turned on and otherwise. "On all those lonely, who want a new love, I urge Go out into the world, let people understand that you are looking for a partner," says Fischer. However, it is not appropriate to accept anyone who comes our way. Love at first sight there is indeed (more often men), but at least half of lovers waiting a period of time before "surrender".

Why do some people fall in love often and others seldom?

It's sad when a dear friend and long communicative one, earnestly assures us: "For me there is no man can fall in love."? Especially that statement is completely false. We can fall in love almost anyone, provided they do not have too high demands. Psychologists say otherwise: they think some may fall in love hard, or not at all because of their biochemical constitution. Those people have difficulties when they have to recognize the symptoms of love and draw correct conclusions from them. On the other hand, we can deliberately prohibit us love, for example when potential partner is married or living far away. It's not easy, admits Helen Fischer and give the feeling heavier than physical contact "always meet people we would like to make love, and yet we are content to shake hands."

I can make others fall in love with me?

When someone does not want to fall in love with us, that is. But there are ways we could help we can change this situation. Psychologists believe that we have the opportunity, if they suggest we are concerned that the man we want, but inaccessible, and that he might be the only exception. "Listen to her, instead monopolized the discussion and to expose oneself to the fore", proposes Bas Kast, author of "Love and passion explanation." Assessing responses from students love, he learned that small gestures of affection passion can trigger other. For having the feeling that we want, start to be born in us the same desire. Other studies have highlighted the role of adrenaline in the emergence of a love story. "We are not escalating

heartbeat because we love. We fall in love because our heart beats louder." The famous "bridge experiment" conducted by American researchers, more male subjects were sent either to cross a bridge suspended on cables or solid one, built of wood. At the end of each of them was a beautiful woman who handed men questionnaires that were filled, giving them also the phone number for further questions. They have received four times as many calls from men of the suspension bridge, and researchers concluded that heartbeat, emotions produced by crossing dangerous with shivery knees goal and stomach, were transferred to the woman. Therefore, the writer Bas Kast we recommend that, without imitating Indiana Jones to soar occasionally with my chosen one in thrilling, like a race giant wheel at an amusement park or even watching a thriller. Thus, it will be hard to distinguish what they produce more emotion: the movie or the presence of women. Finally, for those who prefer simple processes: sometimes a sane argument can be useful.

There is an elixir of love?

The story of Tristan and Isolde, all happened at lightning speed: drink a magic elixir and instantly seized the everlasting fire of love. In real life, things are slightly more complicated. Helen Fischer doubts that in the near future will invent medicines capable of helping us fall in love. "I have to meet a variety of factors: the right time, plus a range of stimuli to which we are accustomed from childhood to react." It assumes, however, that "one day we will have the necessary means to change our brain noradrenaline dopamine levels, thereby enhancing the ability to fall in love even easier." Until then, we'd better eat chocolate, bananas and tomatoes, as also boosts production of dopamine.

How long can we be lovers?

Different studies on the subject oscillates between 18 months and three years. It states that, beyond this limit, nerve routes were already used surplus phenylethylamine. Stage is actually established mechanisms and evolution of species conservation, being long enough to allow choosing a mate to procreate, and the deposit enough energy in perpetuating activity. Neurochemical reactions may extend, when love encounters obstacles and has struggled to defeat them. But do not be sad because love has a cold: sexual exhaustion would destroy us if passion would continue indefinitely.

How we love how it works and the relationship?

American psychologists at the University of Pennsylvania and conclusions expressed by the algebraic formula: Y = 5,44x + 6,62. Translated into ordinary language, she says the following: the attraction between two people depends on all common concerns and similar living concepts. In couples who have survived less than a year, there are fewer than those affinities remained united two to five years. Over five years of the couple, it's just routine and compromise for the sake of family relationship and children.

So opposites be split up quickly or adapt to each other. It is true that often tend to fall in love people that draw us in that they are different from us, but with time, precisely those qualities of their irritates us and make us leave them. Then we can only say: "Before, under canvas."